Sorry for the dumb title. It is literally the best I could come up with. And trust me, I tried quite a few. Feel free to comment below with better ideas that I missed just for fun LOL!
I am writing this blog from home, where I have been on modified bed rest since a few days shy of 21 weeks, I have been hospitalized over night once since my last blog, and I am now having cervical checks twice a week.
So now to rewind a little. My last blog post I stated that my cervix was measuring short at my anatomy scan (February 5th) and that there was funneling. I was put on progesterone suppositories and was scheduled for a check up the following Friday (February 9th). When I went in for my vaginal ultrasound I could tell the funneling was significantly worse and the shortening was obvious to even me. When the doctor came in to check my cervix she said it was not dilated and apparently that surprised her a great deal. My cervix had gotten significantly worse in just four days. Now, despite what I had read, and stories I had heard, because I have no previous history of pre-term labor or cervical issues, I was told they would not do a cerclage until I started to dilate. The risks were just far too high if they didn’t know for sure that my cervix wouldn’t stay closed. At first I was very angry, but now, I truly feel like they made the best decision.
I was hospitalized that day for over night observation because the doctors truly believed that because of the drastic change they were seeing in just four days I wasn’t far from dilating. Well, I was sent home the next day and scheduled for bi-weekly checks for dilation. I just had my 5th check since my hospitalization this morning and my cervix is still closed and very firm. I think my doctors, and especially my husband and I are very pleasantly surprised that is the case. They have not done another vaginal ultrasound to look at the funneling because they have said it’s insignificant if my cervix is staying closed on the outside.
We spoke today of the plan going forward since I am almost 24 weeks. On Monday (March 5th) I am scheduled for a growth ultrasound (for marginal cord insertion which is something they found in the anatomy scan that they didn’t really tell me about in great detail until later due to all the other chaos) and a cervical check with my MFM. After that scan I will meet with my OB for my regular 24 week check up. I will then be seen by my OB every two weeks for cervical checks (unless I get symptoms of dilation or labor in which I will then be seen immediately), I will also be seen every 4 weeks for growth ultrasounds by the MFM. I will also be off work until she arrives.
If at anytime I have pre-term labor issues or cervical dilation I will be admitted to the hospital, given steroids, and that’s where I will be until she gets here.
My anxiety and fear are definitely a very large part of this pregnancy journey but I am trying my best to not let them be the driver. I am trying to put them in the trunk and ignore their banging and clanking as I hit bumps on this road. I try to focus on my very healthy little girl who is kicking me almost constantly now, I try to focus on all of the beautiful things I have ordered for her nursery and look through the clothes that I have had the courage to purchase.
I could write a novel on my complex emotions regarding this whole situation. It is hard not to be angry and bitter than I fought so long and so hard to get to this point and now I still can’t “enjoy” this pregnancy and I have to live with this fear basically until she gets here. But, I like to try and stay positive as much as possible, and I like to believe that I have been put on this path for a reason. Wether it be for me, for the doctors, or maybe just sharing my journey will help one other person advocate for things they feel they want checked and can prevent them discovering issues too late to do anything about them.
A very good friend that I have met through this community went through a devastating loss when her cervix was discovered to be dilated and it was too late for them to put in the cerclage. Because of her story, I have advocated my whole pregnancy for this to be checked. In my 9 years of infertility I never knew that this was even something that could happen. But just before this pregnancy it became obvious that it was something I wanted them to check. While I don’t think the loss she endured was “for me” and I wish with everything that I could change what she went through, I truly believe she was put in my life for a reason. Thousands of miles away she made a difference in my life. She continues to be an amazing supporter of mine and I feel like I owe her far more than I could ever give in return. By sharing her story, and her life with me, she might have just saved my little girl’s life. I just wish I could have done the same for her.
The out pouring of love and support from my family, friends, and this community has been over whelming. If it weren’t for the people in my life supporting my husband, niece and I as we readjust our lives to me not being able to do all the things I usually do, I just don’t know how we could make it through this.
My mom has been doing all the grocery shopping and deep cleaning of my house, my husband now cooks almost all meals and keeps the general upkeep of the house up, and my niece has basically sacrificed doing anything fun unless she is with someone else because I can’t walk for long distances, stand too long. or lift anything. She is extremely active and I feel so bad that she spends most nights on the couch watching TV with us or helping me around the house. Friends come to keep me company, and the amount of texts and calls I get asking how I am is incredible. I am immeasurably blessed.
I apologize for the long, rambling blog but I wanted to share what has been going on in my absence as well as document this part of my journey. I hope if you are reading this you are well, and that life is treating you kindly. Thank you to everyone who has been supporting us, praying for us, and cheering us on as we push through this journey.
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